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“You smile too much.”

When I was in law school, I had a couple of mock interviews arranged by the career center. Neither was particularly successful. During the second, I was distracted by the interviewer’s amazing view from the Sears Tower. I knew I wasn’t giving the interview my full attention, but yet I was powerless to stop staring out the window. I consoled myself that it wasn’t a real interview.

The view wasn’t my problem during the first mock interview: that interview was conducted in a window-less, closet-sized room in the library. I actually had thought everything was going fairly well until, when the interview portion had concluded and the reviewing portion had begun, the interview set down her papers, crossed her arms, and said, “I’ve never had to tell anyone this, but you smile too much.”

I couldn’t even make sense of that. I was sure that I hadn’t been smiling cheesily or vapidly throughout the interview; I was sure that I hadn’t even been grinning nervously. I had been feeling relaxed, and so I had been smiling. I liked law school, and it was easy for me to smile when I talked about it. Didn’t that reflect positively on me? That I enjoyed what I was doing? Nevertheless, I nodded seriously and wrote smile less in my notes.

I thought about it for the next couple of weeks, making concerted efforts to put a serious expression on my face during class. (Unfortunately, I think my expression of “serious thought” with knitted eyebrows was awfully close to my expression of “now, wait, that doesn’t make sense.”) Then I promptly discarded my interview notes. I wasn’t going to smile less. That was ridiculous. If I’m pleased to meet someone or enjoying the conversation, I’m going to smile, even if I’m in a professional situation.

In fact, I would smile especially if I was in a professional situation. When I began having real interviews for jobs, it was my enthusiasm for bankruptcy law that led an excellent conversation with the interviewer from the firm that eventually hired me. I’m obviously not saying that I got that job just on a smile, but the smile certainly didn’t hurt anything.

Read Katie’s blog (the name of which came about from that mock interview) at Perky to a Fault!

Why I’ll never get an e-book reader

I am the very definition of an avid reader. I can lose entire days when I have my nose in a book. One of my favorite topics of conversation with my girlfriends is what books we’re reading. It was only natural then when e-book readers were introduced for those same girlfriends to ask when I was going to get one.

I’m not.

How would I decorate my apartment if not with books?

My aesthetic admiration of bookshelves aside, I can’t bring myself to give up real books. I love everything about books: the colors of the covers, the weight of the pages, the way the binding cracks with repeated readings. There’s an entire sensory experience with books that can’t be replicated with an e-book reader.

Physical books also carry remnants of their past readers. I love borrowing books from friends and seeing which pages they’ve dog-eared and which sentences they’ve underlined. There’s delicious fun in opening a book purchased from a used bookstore and discovering a bookmark left behind from its previous owner. Used books make me weak in the knees.

I can see certain instances in which an e-book reader would be beneficial, most notably when reading an excessively thick book. I nearly dislocated my shoulder toting Anna Karenina around with me last fall, and I’m currently reading Infinite Jest which is so heavy that I can really only comfortably read it when it’s flat in front of me. In my opinion, though, those mild discomforts are outweighed by the pleasure I get from turning actual pages.

It might also come in handy if you were traveling extensively, allowing you to carry multiple titles with little weight. If I had done carried an e-book reader, though, on some of my long trips, I would have missed out on discovering new titles through book exchanges in hostels and used bookstores abroad. Sometimes when traveling I will bring along extra books that I have already read just for that purpose. You never know what you’re going to find. I traded a pulpy legal thriller for Special Topics in Calamity Physics in a used bookstore in Chiang Mai, and it turned out to be one of my favorite books I’ve ever read.

I hate to think of all the books I would have missed out on if I kept out of used bookstores, and there’s simply no way to replicate that feeling of discovery on an e-book reader.

What not to do in yoga

I was made an example of in yoga class last week – and not because my downward dog is so impressive.

My favorite instructor teaches a sixty minute class (which, because I’m not a super-strong yogi, I vastly prefer to the ninety minute classes) at 6 pm on Wednesdays. The small problem here is that, every other day of the week, I work out at 4 pm, and therefore I have my post-workout snack around 5:15 or 5:30. My body is used to having a snack at that time, and so it wants to have a snack before yoga starts.

Last week, I munched on a Luna bar while I waited for class to start and then, because I didn’t see any trash cans in that corner of the gym, tucked the wrapper under my towel when we went into the studio. Fast-forward about thirty-five minutes, and I’m sweating in a three-legged dog while our instructor, this fabulously nutty woman who sometimes breezes into class wearing this huge, outrageous floppy hat, walks around the room. She tapped me on the back and whispered, “Did you eat that before class?” I acknowledged that I had and apologized for bringing the wrapper into the studio.

“It’s okay,” she told me. “That just reminds me I should bring something up with everyone.”

Oh no. That sounded ominous.

We shifted to rest in child’s pose, and she began telling us that we shouldn’t eat for at least two hours before we practice yoga. It wasn’t just that we shouldn’t do it, she told us, it was that it was one of the basic principles of yoga not to do it. I was mortified. I felt only marginally better when she also (gently) reprimanded the students who had brought water bottles into the studio.

I was also slightly indignant. I mean, it was a Luna bar. It wasn’t as though I had eaten a Subway sandwich or something. Regardless, I made a point of not eating before class last night.

This was unquestionably the wrong decision. It was impossible for me to concentrate on my breathing or the poses because I kept thinking about when I would get to go home and have dinner. I bolted out of there when class was over, and I didn’t even make it all the way home. I had to stop at the Duane Reade on my way to the subway so I could buy a cup of grapes.

Consider my lesson learned: one shouldn’t eat before yoga, but one shouldn’t not eat before yoga either. It looks like I’m going to be having a 4 pm snack on Wednesdays from now on.

Originally published on Katie’s blog, Perky to a Fault

On eating insects

In order to fulfill my life science requirement in college, I took a class called “Bugs and People.” The title was misleadingly simple, and it was taught by an energetic, if slightly kooky, woman who was clearly quite passionate about entomology. The class strove to teach me much more science than I had bargained for, but, to this day, the thing that I most recall was the lesson on eating insects. We learned that people in other parts of the world routinely eat insects, and the accompanying lab offered the chance to taste some of these insects. I politely declined, explaining that I was a vegetarian.

At the time, it was true. I was a vegetarian throughout my early to mid-twenties, and, although I was never militant about it, it kept me insulated from having to eat undesirable foodstuffs like insects. My vegetarianism arose my distrust of the cook in our sorority house and my fear of food-born illness, and, once I had stopped eating meat on a daily basis, I lost the taste for it. I stuck with it throughout the rest of college and through a traveling consultant job that found me relying on peanut butter and carrot sandwiches as a main source of sustenance. I was still a vegetarian during a trip to Egypt, in which I struggled patiently to explain to a server that I didn’t eat any shrimp, so just giving me “little shrimps” was not satisfactory; similarly, telling me that there were “no shrimps” in my meal was not acceptable when I could clearly see legs of something emerging from it.

China was what finally broke me. I was able to maintain my diet in Beijing, our first stop, and pleaded vegetarian when faced with the street market of skewered scorpions, starfish, and, yes, insects. Once we were out of the capital city, however, finding meat-free food became more of a challenge. Armed with only a tiny phrase book and a laughable attempt at a Mandarin accent, I was rarely able to explain that I didn’t eat meat. My guidebook suggested I tell servers that I was Buddhist, but I was reluctant to appropriate an entire belief system just to accommodate my entirely voluntary dietary restrictions. I did my best, but meat showed up in the strangest places, including inside my tofu once. I finally gave up. Let me tell you, once you’ve gotten sick from reintroducing meat into your diet, it’s not an experience you want to repeat in this lifetime.

Since I started eating meat again, I’ve eaten all kinds: ostrich, alligator, and even snake. I had never again been presented with insects, though … until today. We were strolling along innocently through the Lower East Side, enjoying the spring day, when we stumbled across a promotion for a certain beer company. They were giving away free street tacos, but the catch was that the tacos all contained non-mainstream proteins. We ended up with one filled with brains and one stuffed with crickets. The brains were not particularly enjoyable. They were wet and lumpy, and it was similar to what I imagine it is like to eat paper mâché. The crickets, on the other hand, were crunchy and salty and not bad at all.

These crickets also had the benefit of being presented with avocado. Somehow, I doubt that the science lab’s edible insects came with such accoutrements.

Visit Katie’s blog at Perky to a Fault.

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I guess I love New York

Statue of LibertyDespite what the ubiquitous t-shirts proclaim, I never expected to love New York. I moved here from Chicago, a city that I did love, whole-heartedly and unconditionally, and I just couldn’t imagine New York even holding a candle to Chicago. I considered myself fair in my assessment, noting that New York had some advantages over Chicago, the most important being the public transportation system that was both more comprehensive and without the constant threat of shutting down my bus route. In my personal calculus, though, Chicago always emerged on top.

For one, Chicago doesn’t have the sheer crush of people that New York does. Perhaps even more importantly, in Chicago, tourists are generally confined to the Magnificent Mile, Millennium Park, and the museum campus. Chicagoans are fairly free to roam the remainder of the city without tripping over tourists. This is not so in New York. The tourists are everywhere, in every part of the city. When I first moved to New York, a double-decker tour bus rolled past my apartment no less than twenty times an hour.

For another, Chicago is more neat and orderly. An upside of the Great Chicago Fire that wiped out the city in 1871 was that it allowed for better city planning, and everything else has seemed to follow suit. Traffic moves in an orderly manner, people walk in an orderly manner, even the pigeons in Chicago seem to bob their heads in an orderly manner. Everything is more chaotic in New York: people zig-zag down the sidewalks, trash piles interrupt your path.

Regardless, New York has grown on me. It happened in a stealthy manner, sneaking up and winning me over before I even realized what was happening. It hit home just recently, shortly after I returned from a vacation abroad. I met some of my girlfriends for drinks near Times Square – a location dictated by the placement of their offices and the inclement weather. As I dodged the throngs of tourists and side-stepped the guys trying to sell me a comedy show, I found myself smiling. I had missed the bright lights and the city’s frenetic pace. I had missed riding the train over the bridge. I had missed the billboards and the scent of meat being cooked on the street. I had missed just walking through the crowds, sharing this little stretch of land with thousands of other people.

New York will never replace Chicago in my heart, but it’s managed to carve out a section all its own. I guess I love New York.

Read more from Katie on her blog, Perky to a Fault.

Adventures in foreign pharmacies

If you travel with me, chances are good that we’ll need to visit a pharmacy. I’ll probably hurt myself or develop a headache, and, even though I should have known better, I probably will have left my bandages and acetaminophen at home.

On a recent trip to Italy, I was struck with a sinus headache. I had packed acetaminophen, ibuprofen, and a whole host of vitamins, but I had nothing for my sinuses. We were in Venice – near the Rialto Bridge, no less, an area crawling with English-speaking tourists – and so I had no problems getting something for my head. I walked into a nearby pharmacy and trotted out my best attempt at explaining my ailment in Italian: “il mal di testa … but sinus.” The pharmacist immediately produced some pseudoephredrine and explained the dosage to me in English.

It’s not always that easy. In fact, it’s usually not. My cobbled-together language skills weren’t enough to get me sinus medication in Guatemala, where I moaned “dolor de cabeza” while pointing at my eyes, my nose, and my temples. I even mimed a vise-like grip on my head. I had been pretty pleased with my miming … until the pharmacist handed me some eyedrops. Luckily, my Spanish-speaking boyfriend was just behind me and was able to communicate what I needed.

Armed with phrasebooks, I can usually at least get my basic ailment across to the pharmacist. This wasn’t the case in China, where I had a foot injury and needed a bandage. I did my best to sound out the Mandarin word for “bandage,” but the pharmacist clearly had no idea what I was saying. I tried once more before leaning over the counter to show her what I was trying to say. This caused her to erupt in laughter at my pronunciation, but she did produce a bandage. Unfortunately, it was an Ace bandage. With a bit more effort, I found the word for “adhesive” and walked out with a box of Chinese band-aids.

It was only marginally easier to get a bandage in Paris than in Xi’an, China, even though I had a phrasebook and was traveling with my mother, who speaks French moderately well. The situation was slightly compounded because I needed antibiotic ointment as well. We were unsuccessful in obtaining the goods until I sucked up my pride and showed the chic Parisian pharmacist my fairly embarrassing foot wound. She quickly gave me a bandage with antibiotic ointment inside.

At some point, one would think I would learn to travel with my first aid kit. Of course, that would make healing myself easier, but I think I would miss my interactions with foreign pharmacists.

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Confession: I watch a soap opera

Those of you who know me know that I have a favorite soap opera. It might be slightly misleading to refer to it as my “favorite,” implying that I have tried other soap operas and this one has emerged the winner, when that is not the case. This has always been my one and only soap opera. I’m not concerned with the semantics, however; I will proudly declare that it is my favorite, and I DVR it every day.

I was first seduced by this soap opera when I was in high school. The summer storylines centered around younger characters (which, I now understand, is a ploy to entice the younger viewers home on summer vacation, just like me) and even included a guest stint by a popular R&B artist, and, most importantly, the show was only thirty minutes long and on during lunch. It was the easiest thing to watch while eating my sandwich before moving on with my day.

My devotion to the soap waned when school started each fall, but, each summer, I picked back up where I left off. Sometimes there were new characters, or old characters replaced by new actors, but I only needed a few days to get back into the swing of things. I became a regular viewer in college, and, in a happy surprise, the girl who lived across the hall in my sorority house was also a fan. When she and I lived together with a third roommate, we recruited that roommate as well. We taped the show (because we had VCRs back then) and watched it together every day. We crafted a sign with cut-out pictures from Soap Opera Digest that read: STOP! DID YOU REMEMBER TO TAPE THE SOAP? We affixed it near the lightswitch so that the last person out in the morning would check to make sure that the VCR was set.

Our love for this soap opera, while a little silly, has helped keep us tight. We don’t see each other often (I live in New York, one lives in Chicago, and the other lives in downstate Illinois), and our lives are not as parallel as they once were (I dropped off the radar for years during law school, one runs marathons, and the other has a husband and a baby), but we can always connect through the soap. It’s our own special language. We regularly exchange emails, texts, and tweets voicing our disbelief about the leading lady’s latest scandal, our concerns over another character’s increasingly bad wigs, or our opinion on which beau the young blonde should choose.

Some people find it surprising that I have such a dedication to a soap opera. Soap operas are, after all, a dying form of entertainment and still conjure images of the target viewers being housewives eating bon-bons. I’m not embarrassed about it, however. The show provides some escapism and some laughs (because, honestly, sometimes the plot lines are too ridiculous to be taken seriously), and, most importantly, it helps me keep in touch with some of my dearest friends!

Aquaphobia and scuba diving

I will occasionally talk myself into doing things far beyond my comfort zone only to panic after I’ve reached the point of no return. This is how I ended up almost thirty feet below the surface of the Caribbean Sea, my lungs full of salty water, wondering how – or if – I was going to get out of this one alive.

I have never had a comfortable relationship with water, and, at some points, I have believed that water was actively trying to kill me. This belief was only strengthened by two disastrous snorkeling attempts in Mexico.

The phrase “scuba diving” had always been enough to strike fear into my heart, but, when my boyfriend suggested a “fun dive” while we were vacationing in Thailand, I agreed. We had been backpacking, having adventures, for several weeks at that point, and I felt invincible. Adrenaline carried me through the dive, and for the first time in my life, I had a truce (albeit an uneasy one) with water.

I had justified the dive as a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, but, less than two years later, my boyfriend suggested we get our open water certification. This seemed reasonable when he suggested it from the safety of our apartment in Brooklyn, but, once we were in a dive shop in Honduras, it hit me: I had just paid a substantial amount of money to engage in a very serious and potentially deadly activity underwater.

In order to get our certification, we had to complete “skills.” Without question, the worst skill was removing the mask completely underwater and then replacing it again. When we had to perform the skill in open water, I hurried through, pulse pounding. I thought I had successfully cleared my mask, but, when I inadvertently inhaled through my nose, my nasal passages were infiltrated by salt water. Surprised, I coughed, spitting out my regulator.

Before I realized what was happening, I had inhaled and filled with lungs with water. Desperately, I gasped for air, but, of course, there was none. In my panic, I couldn’t remember how to find my regulator. This is what it feels like to drown, I thought. I turned toward the surface and prepared to swim for it, knowing it was dangerous to ascend without properly equalizing but not knowing what else to do.

Thankfully, Alex, our instructor, returned my regulator to my mouth and cleared it. Water was still in my mouth and my lungs, but at least I could breathe. Alex led us to the surface, and I ferociously coughed the remainder of water from my lungs.

I knew that if I didn’t complete the dive, we wouldn’t get our certification. Bad weather had disrupted our certification schedule, and we only had that afternoon to complete two dives. I had come so far by this point; I couldn’t leave in failure. We returned to the water to complete the dive, which thankfully had no more skills.

There was one more dive and one more mask removal to complete before we got our certification. I proceeded through as methodically as possible, repeating the steps in my head as a desperate attempt to drown out the voice of panic. After a seeming eternity of exhaling and repeating, Alex tapped me on the shoulder. I opened my eyes. My mask was clear. I had done it. We had completed our certification. We proceeded triumphantly to the surface.

My certification photo is ridiculous – soaking wet, mascara running, wrapped in a beach towel, and grinning the cheesiest smile ever while someone holds a towel behind my head as a make-shift backdrop – but it’s also one of my favorites because it represents the day that I finally conquered my fear of water.

Early resolution success

me eating a beet

I imagine I’m not alone when I say I have a rather dismal track record where New Year’s Resolutions are concerned. Every year I resolve to eat better, exercise more, be more fiscally responsible, and drink less – and every year I end up continuing to eat spoonfuls of peanut butter dotted with chocolate chips, use the elliptical rather apathetically, and spend too much money on overpriced drinks (effectively knocking out two resolutions with one stone – or martini olive).

To date, my most successful resolution was the year that I resolved to eat tomatoes. Tomatoes had long been my arch-nemesis. They often appeared in my least-favorite meals as a child (spaghetti, chili, and meatloaf), and I didn’t care for them in their raw form either. I didn’t like anything about them: the taste, the texture, the appearance. I found the seeds to particularly offensive. Tomatoes are full of lycopene, though, which I had heard was good for you, and so I resolved to eat tomatoes.

And, by God, I learned to eat tomatoes.

Encouraged, I tried a similar resolution the next year with beets, but my success was only marginal. I can now consume small portions of beets – assuming, of course, that they have been coated in olive oil, salt, and pepper and roasted until almost unrecognizable.

It took the entire year to see any results with both the tomato and beet resolutions. This year, however, I am pleased to report progress on my primary resolution in just the first month!

My primary resolution – the one that I have deemed most important – of 2011 is to stop being so unnecessarily competitive. I’m not a terribly competitive person in other aspects of my life, but, for reasons that I don’t understand, I’m in a constant race against other people on the sidewalks, even if I’m not going anywhere particular, and I get irritated when people step in front of me while I’m waiting for the train, even if the train has plenty of open seats and/or I’m only going one stop. I can’t even fly Southwest because the open seating policy gives me anxiety for days before my flight.

Clearly, this is not the best way to go through life, and so I resolved to change it.

My Wednesday night yoga class is usually a pitfall for me. The small room fills quickly, and some spots are clearly less desirable than others. Another class is scheduled in the studio just before ours, and a loose line forms outside the door. I usually spend the fifteen minutes before class trying to make sure that I have the best possible spot in line and worrying that people will cut in front of me and get a better spot. Now that I’ve made a conscious effort to rein it in, I found myself remaining calm while I waited for the most recent class.

My yoga practice definitely benefited from me not getting worked up before class, and I’m delighted that my resolutions are off to such a great start. Now if only I can find a way to work on those peanut butter spoons …

Skiing and cosmetics

Skiing and cosmetics are forever linked in my mind, so much so that, when some friends proposed a ski trip to Vermont this winter, my instinct was to check my make-up in a mirror. It may seem a bit odd, but the truth of the matter is that I learned to wear make-up because of skiing – and not because I thought that it would protect my face from windburn.

When I was in junior high, I went on a community ski trip to a resort a couple of hours away. At this point, I should probably mention that I didn’t grow up in Vermont or Colorado or any other state notable for skiing. I grew up in Illinois, a state associated much more strongly with flat plains than anything resembling a mountain. The terrain does get a bit hilly in the southern most part of the state, but I am from central Illinois, where the land is as flat as can be.

This was the second year that I had been on the ski trip to a small resort with a smattering of modest slopes and a dusting of man-made snow. I found it wildly exciting, and I was feeling confident in my skiing capabilities. I had made it off the bunny slope the previous year!  I imagined myself practically an expert. I eagerly strapped on my rented boots and skis, and I headed out the lodge door.

That was when I fell off the cliff.

It’s something a misnomer to call it a cliff, but that’s certainly what it seemed to be. There was a significant drop-off just mere yards away from the lodge door, something that everyone else had managed to avoid, but that I, an overly excited and slightly clumsy thirteen-year-old tripped right over. Apparently my tumble over the edge was rather spectacular, but I don’t remember any of it.  I knocked myself completely out, thankfully unaware of the resulting toboggan rescue by the resort staff. I was relegated to the infirmary for the remainder of the day, where I watched a tiny black and white television while all my friends skied.

I returned home with a face that was half black-and-blue, and the bruise looked angrier the next morning. The discoloration was impossible not to notice, and so my mother bought me my first tube of concealer to mitigate the damage. I doctored my face with it for weeks, and, when the bruise was finally gone, I had grown used to putting on make-up. Although I can put on my cosmetics every day without thinking about skiing, whenever I think about skiing, I inevitably think about make-up.

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